As I write this, Valentine’s Day is one week away. If you ask me, that week could not pass fast enough.
As you have probably figured out from my other posts, I am one of those individuals who will find themselves alone on Valentine’s Day. That in and of itself it not a problem. I have grown to accept my lack of desirability and don’t really feel too much angst over my loneliness.
What I find disturbing is that so many others seem to put so much emphasis on Valentine’s Day, and on the whole “finding the right one” concept. The latter I will address later, but let’s look at the concept of Valentine’s Day to begin with.
While the association between February 14th and romance goes back centuries (or further, if you figure that the holiday was adopted from a pagan one), what we see is not a celebration of love, but a celebration of consumerism much like what Christmas has become. Now, it is not enough to pledge your undying love to your sweetheart on Valentine’s Day, or compose a sonnet extolling the virtues of her beauty, you need to buy her things. And the more you buy, the more she will love you… at least that is the message that keeps getting sent.
According to the modern Valentine’s business, if you don’t come bearing a dozen roses, the prettiest card made by Hallmark, a box of expensive chocolates, the prettiest necklace that compliments her eyes, and reservations for the most elegant (and expensive) restaurant in the state, you just may as well fill out an application for eHarmony, because she is going to leave you without a second thought. In fact, I believe that not doing all of this on Valentine’s Day is one of the criteria by which eHarmony will reject an applicant. It is a lot of pressure that many relationships can barely handle.
As tough as it is for those in relationships, it is even tougher for those who are alone. This is mostly because those who are in relationships will make you feel like something scraped off a shoe if you are alone on Valentine’s Day.
“What do you have planned for your sweetheart for Valentine’s Day?”
“Um, I’m not seeing anyone right now.”
“Oh, my, I’m sorry. Do you need to talk about it?”
Even worse than the “there, there” statements lonely people get around Valentine’s Day are the couples who feel the need to fix you up with someone. The pressure of Valentine’s Day is not enough, now they want to compound that with not only a first date, but a blind date as well. Sometimes I think that people who do that are not really trying to help, but they are engaging in some sort of Schadenfreude action to make them feel better by making your life that much worse.
If you are one of the lonely few who are left alone on Valentine’s day, here are a few things you can take some comfort in.
- Being alone on Valentine’s Day, you will save yourself roughly $500, assuming you are not a cheap skate on a date.
- The only candy you need to buy is the candy you want to eat.
- No Necco hearts. Why someone thought heart-shaped pieces of rock with pithy sayings on them would make the perfect Valentine candy I will never know. you could load them in a shotgun as buckshot and put them to better use.
- Not a big fan of the quirky romantic comedy where the main characters start off hating each other only to fall madly in love by the end of the movie? If you are alone on Valentine’s Day, you can choose whatever movie you want to see. Heck, you can even watch the horror movie My Bloody Valentine 3D if that is how you want to celebrate the day.
- Valentine’s Day Spending: The Power Of Love and Money (mediacaffeine.com)
- The Dark Origin of Valentine’s Day (jaclynmcneil.wordpress.com)